From Overdrive to Alignment: Redefining Success and Prioritizing What Matters

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Hey, my name is Kat and I'm Lee and welcome to the

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Today I'm going to share about working from a place of

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alignment instead of hustling.

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And for those of you who are listening to this on audio, I'm

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holding a jacket up that says hustle.

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Uh, it would align, uh, crossing the word hustle and align is right underneath it.

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I definitely know a thing or two.

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Or a hundred about hustling, but I am also learning a lot about alignment.

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And today is day three, um, from the BBD live business by design conference.

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And, um, I really experienced today what it means to be alignment.

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Not that I haven't experienced it before, but even more so today.

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Um, and he will understand why as I share this story.

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In the last, I would say, gosh, eight years or so, I have spent

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close to 150, 000 in coaching.

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Um, and this is coaching literally from anything from really real

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estate to music to, um, My business and for the most part, that's it.

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Like the real estate music business licensing, learning how to be, you know,

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certification program, all these things.

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And yeah, close to 150, 000 in coaching alone.

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And I'm not even talking.

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I'm not even counting the amount of money that I've spent

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on training my body, right?

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So that's also coaching, but in a different way, I guess, but training

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my body for movement, right?

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Like when I went into overdrive and trained for stunts and I trained anything

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from gun training to wire work to.

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All sorts of different martial arts and the amount of money

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that I spent that year, literally just on training stunts alone.

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And then, of course, the years of training that I've put into aerial.

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So that 150, 000 is literally just strictly on in the last

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eight years of my growth in real estate and music and in business.

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And Is it worth it?

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Sometimes I don't know.

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Um, sometimes I question myself too, but you know, like I spent 10, 000 on

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a one year mastermind for real estate and I am very much an action taker.

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I don't just when I.

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Pay for something for a program.

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I do not take it lightly and I do the work because I am a doer gosh I've been a doer

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my entire life And i'm learning how to just be but you know, I spent ten thousand

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dollars on a real estate mastermind and I I did out of that mastermind.

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I learned how to invest in real estate and we we did purchase you know, um

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three Additional rental properties because of the stuff that I learned.

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I purchased another real estate program training.

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I think it was 7, 500 on note investing and out of that note investing.

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I did purchase a note and we actually in fact sold that note this year.

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And, uh, did get profit out of that.

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I did go into a private investing, not private investing.

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It's, it was private funding.

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You learn how to be a private funder for investors.

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Um, that was, I believe also a 7, 000.

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That one, I did not do anything about because, well,

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we kind of ran out of funds.

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We realized we can't be a private funder, a private lender.

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It was a private, how to be a private lender.

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We can't be a private lender if we don't have funds.

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So, um, but actually, I still know.

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How to go into private lending if I want to.

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So later on, you know, hopefully as you know, my business grows,

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then we'll have funds and I can actually be a private lender.

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So that's down the line, but I did learn that, but gosh,

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there's just so many things.

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The amount of coaching that I have.

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Paid for has been crazy and there's such a thing as hungry.

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This is what I learned this and not that I don't know this, but just kind of hearing

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it from another person, you know, kind of teaching it and also from a person that.

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Her name is Natalie Ellis from Boss Babe.

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Uh, she has built a freaking multimillion dollar business.

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And she has an incredible story, incredible, incredible story that I

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encourage you to look up if you don't know her already, but there is such a thing

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as she was teaching about hungry versus empty, operating from a place of hunger

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versus operating from a place of empty.

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There's nothing wrong with being hungry.

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There's nothing wrong with being hungry.

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Having the drive, the hunger for more, the hunger to, to learn more,

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to be more, to be better, right?

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There's nothing necessarily wrong with that, but there's something wrong with

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that if you are combining that with operating from a place of emptiness.

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So, I think what I've realized as I look back in my experiences is

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that I'm that person who's hungry to learn for more, who's hungry to,

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to do more, who's hungry to grow.

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And so I do feel that I've operated from that place, and I don't think it really

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is from a place of emptiness for the most part for a while until actually in the

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recent years that I realized that, um, the reason why I went into overdrive and.

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Signing up for even more coaching and even more masterminds is because I'm starting

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to kind of suddenly get scared because I'm signing up for all these things.

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And yes, I am doing the work, but then I am not seeing the return in my investment.

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And part of the reason why I'm not seeing the return of my investment

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financially is because when you're signing up for so many coaches and

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so many masterminds, then you have so many voices speaking into you so many

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suggestions and coaching coming into you.

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And now you're like, well, I will do them all.

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Because that's me.

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I'm the person who will like, you're, you're saying I'm doing this.

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Yes, coach.

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I'll do that.

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And then this other coach tells me you're saying that you should do this.

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Yes, coach.

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I got, I got it.

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I'll do it.

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I'm, I'm the yes coach person.

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So all of a sudden.

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I'm seeing that I'm getting scared because I am, I'm signing

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up for all these things and then spending so much money on coaching.

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Meanwhile, you know, my business, if I'm not signing up for all of these crazy

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coaching, my business is making money.

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The problem is my business is not making any money because everything that flows

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into the business is literally just put back into all these coaching that

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I'm paying for and mind you, they're not, they're not cheap coaching.

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Okay.

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So, finally, I met this guy named James Wedmore.

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I met him.

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Well, this weekend today, personally, but I met him online.

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He didn't meet me.

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I met him.

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I saw him online and I signed up for his course.

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There we go again.

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I signed up for his course earlier this year.

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June of of 2004, and it was a 2997, uh, self study course.

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There's some coaching.

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Um, you know, there's some coaching with with his trained coaches, but

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it's not like one on one coaching.

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It's really up to you to watch everything and put everything into implementation.

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But somehow.

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And I always, I always kind of feel this.

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It's like, there's going to be something good from this.

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I promise this is it.

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This is it.

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I think this is it.

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And this time, this is it.

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This time, this is it.

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If there's only one coaching I could choose, it would be this.

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Because I have gone through so much coaching, and I'm a very coachable person.

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I follow, and as I already said, I'm a yes coach person.

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You tell me what to do, I will implement the heck out of what you tell me to do.

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The difference with James course is that he really gives you a step by

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step blueprint of what you need to do.

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To actually earn money in your business, right?

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Um, but, but it's not just the earning.

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It's actually really being clear on who you serve, what you do, and how that fits

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into the overall lifestyle of what you want to do as a business owner, because

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business is an addition to your life.

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It does not take over your life.

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And I'll talk about that a little bit more later.

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But the thing about James is that, um, He makes it so simple, business is

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simple, you have an offer, you make an offer, and you make it to as many, you

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make that offer to as many people as possible, that's it, so you have an offer,

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that's your product or your service.

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You make an offer, because if you don't make an offer, how are people

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going to know to buy from you if you don't actually make that offer?

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And number three, you get that offer in front of as many

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people as possible, right?

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As many people that are in alignment with who you're offering it to, right?

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So obviously, um, I'm not going to make an offer to dentists if my product or

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my service is not for dentists, right?

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So I have to get in front of the, the people that I'm serving

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and make that offer to them.

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Get in front of them, make that offer to them.

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And then, and then obviously, uh, offer them the service or the product.

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And it's just that simple.

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The more you offer, and the more you get in front of more people, the more

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money you'll make in your business.

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And, you know, as I said, it's not about money, right?

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But today.

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I witnessed right a room full of people today.

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We close out the event today.

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A lot of them are already successful entrepreneurs.

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A lot of them are some of them are starting.

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It was a mix of people in the room, right?

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But there were a lot of entrepreneurs there who are like they had a

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panel of seven figure entrepreneurs and they're just regular people.

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Like me, like you, regular people who got a hold of their vision, they want to

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serve people, uh, they put their business online so that they can serve more, right?

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If your business is online, you obviously are able to reach more people

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because you don't have that location brick and mortar, um, limitation.

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And today I witnessed, um, The whole, the whole room today

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raised about 250, 000, 251, 000.

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Uh, we all gave money into the charity this week called Charity Water.

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And, um, James said that it was the biggest, uh, money that has been

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raised so far at this live event that we, that he holds once a year.

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Um, it's a three day event once, once a year.

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And, um, Because it's a room full of entrepreneurs, entrepreneurs are usually

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very, very giving people the reason why we do business and the reason why

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we want to make the money that we want to make is because we want to be able

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to have that capacity to serve and bless other people with our finances.

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Um, gosh, like I, I have charities I want to support.

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I have causes I want to support.

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I have, I want my own, you know, later on, like a freaking cat cafe.

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It has a dog park that has a, uh, Amphitheater for performances that

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we can host for children that we have given scholarships to for

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music and movement, and then they come over here and they learn about

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music and movement and life skills.

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And we have this whole production that I can just produce all on, all on my own,

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like as far as financial goes, right.

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Because I have those funds.

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That's what I would love to do.

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I would love to have a tree adventure park because of my love for adventure, or you

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can hold like team building activities and it's your own adventure park.

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Gosh, there's just so much that I want to do.

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There's so much that money can do for you.

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And if you have an amazing heart for people, gosh, that

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money can go a long way.

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Cause money is not the root of evil.

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It's our, it's our greed.

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It's our, it's our gosh, unstationable desire for money.

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That's the root of evil, right?

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But the money itself, it's, it's not evil.

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It's just a tool.

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So.

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I witnessed that today and James, you know, he is a 20 million entrepreneur.

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His, his, I don't even know really actually how much he's, you know,

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his revenue is gross revenue a year, but he has this story where he

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went from 2 million to 10 million.

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And in one year, um, that is also an incredible story in and of itself.

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He, his, his sleep was just a quantum leap in his business.

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And it actually came from a very, very difficult time in his life.

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The, there was a very difficult time.

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Someone was suing him and he had this crazy fear that he was going

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to lose everything and instead of.

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Surrendering into that fear he stepped out faced that fear and his business

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actually at the time that he got sued He was able to grow his business from

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two million to ten million dollars in one year And that was years ago And I

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know that he is way past ten million dollars now a year and I share all of

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this because going back into verse hunger versus empty so I've been panicking

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because basically I've been paying for all of these coaching things and nothing

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is coming back because I am building way too many bridges when you have too

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many voices in your head, you have too many coaches telling you what to do.

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You tend, especially if you're a yes coach kind of person, you will follow

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all of these directions and now you're building this bridge, and now you're

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building this bridge, and then this bridge, and then this bridge, and then

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this bridge, and then this bridge, and you're wanting to go from here to here,

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and then, uh, And all of those bridges are never built all the way through.

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So then my attention is, you know, trying to catch like five

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different rabbits all at once.

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And I end up not catching any rabbit.

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And finally, with James, I just really understand now, and I've learned

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this too from other people, right?

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I've learned the concept of like, focus on one thing.

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I've learned the concept of, um, um.

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But, you know, being clear on who you serve, being clear on what you want to do.

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I've, I've, I know all these things already, but I think the difference with

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James is he really has a step by step by step by step, freaking the process, man.

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The process is just ridiculous.

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It is so clear that if you follow it.

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It's not that it will happen like that, right, but it's that

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your success is truly inevitable.

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It's going to happen if you follow it.

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And so I sat there today and today was the last day of, um, Enrolling

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in the BBD next level that's business by design next level.

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So what I enrolled in this June was his, uh, self study course, right?

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With like a little bit of group coaching on the side.

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And then the next level.

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Above that is called next level and it's his mastermind for the people who now want

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to go further Instead of the once a year event that I get to go to right like which

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is this event that I've been in this the past Few days you get like four different

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events and then More coaching from him and really more touch point with him

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because he's been doing this for 17 years now, the, in the online business space,

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and he's just incredibly successful.

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So he's, and he's coached thousands of people and thousands of people have

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literally followed his system and they have scaled this business to the moon.

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And so here I am.

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The enrollment for next level was due today by lunchtime.

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And yesterday I kept asking, like, I literally kept asking God,

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like, do I enroll in this thing?

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Because I know, I know that I know that I know that if I enroll in this

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thing, um, and especially because now I'm actually focused in a sense, not

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that I wasn't focused in the growing my business before I was focused in

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growing my business before, but I was.

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Just focusing on way too many different directions because I had way too

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many voices in my head, way too many coaches in my ecosystem of coaches.

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Right.

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And so.

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Now that I know that I know that this is the coach that's going to

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take me further and I will no longer Enroll in any other coaches, right?

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This is it.

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I know that if I go to next level mastermind, which by the way is

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about eleven thousand dollars a year

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So this is love and that it would be an eleven thousand dollar payment, I

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know that I would succeed No doubt.

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I just know it.

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I have no doubt in my ability to follow everything that he says, and

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because I've seen it work for others, then I know it will work for me too.

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Okay, because I have a vision of same thing, same as all these other people

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that I saw there today who's standing in the panel and they are called seven

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figure entrepreneurs because they have scaled their businesses to seven figures.

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And so I am that person who I want to sit.

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On their seats, you know, a year from now, two years from now, however long

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it takes me, um, to be that seven figure entrepreneur with the service

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that I do, and because I love what I do, and I believe in it so much.

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And so here I am.

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Really contemplating, do I spend another 11, 000 in this next

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level mastermind coaching because he only offers it once a year.

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The enrollment is only open once a year.

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And yes, last night I've been praying.

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I said, God, like, what do I do?

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What do I do?

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What do I do?

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And then.

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This morning I texted Lee, I said, babe, yes or no?

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And of course he has no context, right?

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He said, yes.

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I said, okay.

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And I said, do you believe in me?

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And he said, yes, of course he believes in me.

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Lee is super supportive, incredibly supportive in everything that I do and

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encouraging and all good things, right?

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Yes.

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Yes.

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Okay.

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I guess I'm enrolling.

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Of course he doesn't have the context of what I'm saying and what I'm asking.

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I'm just asking for, you know, a sign.

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I'm just desperately asking for a sign.

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I said, God, please just, just, okay, I'm going to quiet myself.

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So I was, I was listening to the speaker and I just, I just kept

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quieting myself and I kept quieting myself and I realized the answer.

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If I.

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do this, I will still be operating from a place of emptiness.

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And the reason for that is because all the other coaching programs I've

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done up to the point in just the last recent years, I'm not saying

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from the very beginning I've, I've operated from a place of hungry.

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I want to grow.

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I want to grow.

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And not that.

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I'm not in a place of hungry right now.

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I'm still in a place of hungry.

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I want to grow.

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I want to learn more.

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But there's a lot of emptiness in my operation, like in the way I operate

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now, because of the fact that I am desperately wanting to make my money

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back on all these coaching programs that I have been spending so much money on.

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And because my business is not actually making the money that I wanted to make.

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And so I sat there and I said, If I Do this, that means that it will require

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me to step up even more because this is an 11, 000 product, which means that I

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will work myself to the bone to literally do everything that they're asking me

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to do so that I can grow my business.

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Right.

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And I know that's actually not what they're going to tell me to do,

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because with the way James work.

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The reason why the people that he coach are coaches are so successful is because

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his whole thing is actually doing less.

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If you do less, you will actually be a lot more successful.

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And if you just do the most important things, get, get, get away with from,

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from all the fluff, you know, trim off the fat, like whatever they want to call

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it, like you'll actually earn a lot more, you'll actually be a lot more successful.

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But I sat there and I knew that the next level is going to be great for

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me, but I just knew that it wasn't the right time because I actually

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really need to heal the, the operating from emptiness that's inside of me.

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And then I evaluated my, my life for, for the last like two, three years or so.

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I said earlier, business is an addition to your life.

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It's not supposed to take over your life.

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And what I've realized is that.

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I have made my business, my God,

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I have made my business.

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The thing that I think about every waking moment, every second of my life.

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I have made it the thing that goes before my husband.

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I have made it the thing that goes before my prayer time.

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I have made it the thing that goes before me.

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taking care of my body and actually nurturing my body more and being

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consistent with my practice and movement.

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I've made it the thing that goes before me playing the piano, which every time I

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play the piano, it gives me so much joy.

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I have made it the thing that has kept me at home and working 16 hour

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days, uh, and not even leaving the house for three, four days straight.

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That's the reality of it.

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And.

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Lee would sometimes tell me, Babe, have you, have you gotten outside today?

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You need to go outside.

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And I would just be like, I would open the door and I would stick my head outside and

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I'd be like, There you go, I went outside.

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And I closed the door and I sit back on the couch and I start working again.

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And so, I sat there today and I felt this surge of energy go through

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me and it was such a clear no.

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Going into this other coaching program is going to be amazing.

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It's going to be no doubt amazing, and it's going to no doubt supercharge me

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to the moon with my business goals.

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However, it's not the right time because what I really need to do

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is to actually put my energy and my finances back more into coaching.

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Getting therapy for, for myself, getting therapy for Lee, getting

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therapy for both of us in a marriage counseling setting, um, because we

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both have a lot of trauma in our life.

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Me, him, individually and us together.

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We've gone through a lot.

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Some heavy things in in the recent years and we really actually need to come

Kat: 00:24:21

together and and Find that place again and not that we don't love each other.

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We love each other very much I I love Lee and he loves me and he

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supports me and everything that I do

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But we need to find that connection again

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And I feel like every time I talk to Lee, all I talk to him about is my business.

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And I put my business in front of him every single time.

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You know, I choose my business over him, over God, over

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myself, over everything else.

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Sometimes my dad calls me and I love my dad and sometimes I can't even

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like talk to him because I'm like, dad, I'm really busy right now.

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I gotta, I gotta finish this.

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And that's not okay.

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So instead of signing up for another coaching program, instead of, um,

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overdriving, overwhelming, overworking myself, I've decided that this year,

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I am just really going to put my relationship first and whatever gets

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done, gets done in the business.

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Whatever doesn't get done, doesn't get done.

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I don't want to supercharge myself into overdrive to try to meet

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those goals in a timeline that I want just because of my ego.

Kat: 00:25:46

You know, yeah, I want to get to my, my, my first, you know,

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million dollars revenue a year.

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That's, that's what I would love, right?

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And then from there, I want to keep going, right?

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I want to, uh, just keep going and it's not even worth it.

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You know, I mean, all of those people today that spoke in the panel who are the

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seven figure entrepreneurs that started just like me, a lot of them shared their

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story that they were like, Oh, yeah, they were just sitting in in my seat

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and, you know, in this in the audience seat, like, just like us watching them.

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They were there in our seats and and and watching.

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The people in the panel and also started their business from zero from scratch

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from hardships from from confusion from not knowing from from started their

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businesses out of, you know, a divorce out of a death out of a loss out of

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miscarriages out of Death out of just so many hardships and yet those people are

Kat: 00:26:46

sitting there right now and are now seven figure entrepreneurs and yes, I want to

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be like them, but every single one of them has also said that it will happen,

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but you can't force your way through it.

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Number one, and.

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Number two, it actually happens the moment you put your values first.

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And for me, my value is my relationship with God, my

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relationship with Lee, my relationship with my friends and my family.

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That's, that's my value, you know?

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And, and yes, my relationship with my, my families that I work with, my

Kat: 00:27:26

students, but they're still my clients.

Kat: 00:27:29

You know, like, I love, and that's a problem with me because I work with kids.

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I, I tend to really be attached to them.

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Like, I love them so much.

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I love, I love all my students so much.

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And

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I want to be that person for them that just knows that Miss Cat is there.

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Miss Cat is going to be there for them.

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You know?

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And that's why I care for them so much.

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That's why I do all the things that I do because I love them and I just

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want to show them in my own little way Especially because it's online

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and they don't I don't get to see them hold them hug them You know and just

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really show them that I care for them.

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I So I feel like sometimes I do overcompensate, I send them gifts, I send

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them stuff, but it's just my way of just showing them that I think about them, you

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know, and I think when, when, when you're working with, with kids, with families,

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sometimes it's hard to like put a boundary and say, they're still your clients,

Kat: 00:28:29

Kat, they're still your clients and your, your family still comes first, you know,

Kat: 00:28:34

and it's hard because I, I, They're my clients, but I really do see them as part

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of my family that I really genuinely see them as an extension of my family, even

Kat: 00:28:45

if they don't see me that way to me.

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I see them that way.

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That's you know, and it's that's why it's hard for me to detach

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myself sometimes from my business from all that I do because of.

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You know, my attachment to their well being, to their growth.

Kat: 00:29:05

Yeah.

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And I guess that's a lesson that I also need to learn.

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That I need to not hold on so much to that and detach myself from the results

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of, you know, what they're getting.

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And gosh, that's another lesson on its own.

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But basically, what I've learned is I'm aligning my values.

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Going back to the beginning of my story here is that I'm aligning my values.

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I am aligning, aligning who I am and really and truly

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what I value to my business.

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I'm not making my business align.

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I'm not making my business dictate what I do.

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I'm making my business be in alignment with my values.

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And so I'm really proud of myself.

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I am super proud of myself because I'm one of those people

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where it's like, next level?

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Yeah, sure.

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Sign me up.

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You can pretty much sell me anything when it comes to like personal growth

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and mastery and all this stuff.

Kat: 00:30:02

You can sell me anything.

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I am all for it.

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I will sign up for it and I will do the freaking work.

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Because I enjoy working.

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I'm one of those kids that actually enjoyed homework.

Kat: 00:30:12

So, no surprise here that I will sign up for Mastermind so that

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I can give myself more work.

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Yep, that is no surprise.

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So Yeah, I'm just so proud of myself today that I did not actually sat and

Kat: 00:30:30

I let the answer come to me and I was seeking the answers like I feel like

Kat: 00:30:34

I was asking God for the answers and I knew that the answer was going to come.

Kat: 00:30:38

Um, but I was ready to sign up for it too.

Kat: 00:30:40

I was ready.

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The, the, the application form was already in my bag.

Kat: 00:30:44

It was ready to go.

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And, um, I was like at any moment now, God, if you say yes, I'm going,

Kat: 00:30:51

I'm going, I'm signing up 11, 000.

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Take my money.

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Yeah.

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Money that I don't have.

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I'm just kidding.

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But seriously, like, it's really crazy because I signed up for so many coaching.

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But I'm proud of myself to have, first of all, actually sat down to

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listen, taking some breath work and listen, and second, really being open

Kat: 00:31:14

to the voice that's coming in and showing me so clearly, like, Kat, it

Kat: 00:31:20

is a no and this is the reason why.

Kat: 00:31:22

It's because if you say yes to that, you're going to be in overdrive again,

Kat: 00:31:26

you're going to be operating from a place of emptiness, not hunger, but you're

Kat: 00:31:30

just going to be doing this, right, because you're just so empty to try to

Kat: 00:31:34

get yourself out of this hole that you've dug, and, uh, All that's going to do is

Kat: 00:31:38

it's going to put your business again in front of everything else that you

Kat: 00:31:41

value and everything else that you said that you're doing this business for.

Kat: 00:31:44

Because to be honest, I'm doing this business because I want freedom, right?

Kat: 00:31:48

I have this dream of like retiring leave from his work.

Kat: 00:31:51

Like I want my business to make so much money.

Kat: 00:31:53

He doesn't have to work that he gets to also do what he wants to

Kat: 00:31:55

do because all these years he's been freaking supporting me.

Kat: 00:32:01

My love for dance, he supported that, like my, my love for real estate, he

Kat: 00:32:06

supported that, my, like, hey, here's a 10, 000 course that I want to take,

Kat: 00:32:10

he's like, sure, go for it, you know, it's, it's crazy, so I want him to be

Kat: 00:32:16

able to be free and do the things he wants to do too, and So the thing that

Kat: 00:32:22

I say, Hey, I want my business to be successful so it can give me freedom to

Kat: 00:32:25

have more time with my, with my family and, you know, and, and Lee and friends.

Kat: 00:32:31

And here I am, it's taking me away from it.

Kat: 00:32:34

So that ends, that ends today.

Kat: 00:32:38

Tomorrow I'm going to go back and fly back to LA and it's a Sunday

Kat: 00:32:41

and I have a ton of things to do.

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And especially because of today of the last three days, I already got

Kat: 00:32:46

a download of how I need to pivot my offer that I just launched.

Kat: 00:32:50

Um, And all these things that I need to do to test and, and, and put out there.

Kat: 00:32:55

Um, but tomorrow, I am not going to work.

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I said it.

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The moment it came out of my mouth, I'm like, Did I really just say that?

Kat: 00:33:06

Did I really just say that?

Kat: 00:33:10

Because that's the problem too, because I actually love to work.

Kat: 00:33:12

That's the problem.

Kat: 00:33:12

Problem because I'm a freaking workaholic and the problem about that

Kat: 00:33:17

is realizing that it probably has come from some sort of trauma where I feel

Kat: 00:33:21

like the need to always do something.

Kat: 00:33:22

I can't just sit still and actually be okay and be at peace with myself.

Kat: 00:33:27

I mean look at now it's literally It's really literally like almost 1am.

Kat: 00:33:33

I have a flight at 7am here.

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I am

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talking about alignment with my values.

Kat: 00:33:40

Apparently I don't value my health.

Kat: 00:33:42

Oh my gosh, I'm such a walking contradiction sometimes.

Kat: 00:33:44

But, but I just had to get this out today because I feel like I was in a flow.

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I was recording an episode every single night when I got back into

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my Airbnb after the full day event.

Kat: 00:33:55

We've been there since 9am this morning.

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8am actually for me, I got in early and got a little bit of coaching done, um,

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this morning and it's now almost 1am.

Kat: 00:34:06

I have a 6am flight and here I am still recording this episode, but it's

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okay because tomorrow I ain't working.

Kat: 00:34:14

I'm aligning my business to my value and I'm going to value,

Kat: 00:34:17

I'm going to show the world.

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It doesn't really matter.

Kat: 00:34:22

I'm just saying like, I'm going to show, I'm just going to, I'm

Kat: 00:34:25

just going to prove it to myself.

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That's it.

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That I can do this.

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I can put myself first.

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I can put my husband first.

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I can put God first.

Kat: 00:34:35

I can put my family first.

Kat: 00:34:37

I can put my friends first before my business.

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I can work from a place of alignment and not hustling.

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I can do this.

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Thanks for listening.

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