Spoon Bending at a Business Conference
In this reflective solo episode of Wildly Wealthy Life, Kat recounts her transformative experience at the Business by Design Live event, where she learned to harness the power of energy and mindset. Through a surprising spoon-bending exercise, Kat dives deep into lessons about detachment from results, self-worth, and how internal beliefs shape external realities. This episode is a powerful reminder to embrace your inner strength, redefine success, and align with your authentic self.
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00:00 The surprising exercise: bending a spoon at a business conference
01:33 Lessons on detachment and enjoying the journey, not just the outcome
05:39 Understanding and transferring personal power through energy
07:33 A powerful vision: stepping into your future self to achieve success
13:01 Kat’s takeaway: owning and transferring your power into everyday life
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Transcript
Hey, my name is Kat.
Speaker:And I'm Lee.
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Speaker:Have you ever gone to a business conference thinking that one of
Speaker:the activities they're going to make you do is to bend a spoon?
Speaker:This is a spoon that I bent today in one of the activities in a business
Speaker:conference, business gathering.
Speaker:You know, when you think about business conferences, you're going to think
Speaker:strategy, how to do marketing, how to do sales, how to grow your business.
Speaker:But this business by design experience is completely different because it's
Speaker:teaching us that everything that has to do with growth in your business first
Speaker:comes and foremost with everything that has to do with your growth as a person.
Speaker:And so today they told us, they, they showed us a clip of Neo and the Matrix,
Speaker:the scene of that little boy, like bending the spoon and they're like, yep,
Speaker:you're going to bend the spoon today.
Speaker:So they handed the spoons and this is like completely Oh, I can't even, I
Speaker:can't even do anything to that right now.
Speaker:Cause it was a whole experience.
Speaker:It was a whole exercise, but now I have the recording of the event and
Speaker:I'm literally going to take myself through the exercise over and over
Speaker:and over again, until I've been like, I don't know, maybe 10 spoons.
Speaker:It was an incredibly powerful experience.
Speaker:Um, it is now Friday, December 6th at 11.
Speaker:P.
Speaker:m.
Speaker:I just got back from the event.
Speaker:I was there at 8 a.
Speaker:m.
Speaker:It was full day.
Speaker:We had an hour and a half for lunch, 45 minutes for dinner.
Speaker:And in between, it was all speaker after speaker application after application.
Speaker:And this is one of the application exercises was to bend a spoon.
Speaker:And before we went into the exercise.
Speaker:You know, they really told us that we have to be detached from the results, just
Speaker:like in, in business and in life, right?
Speaker:When we're so attached to the results or the outcome, a lot of the times
Speaker:we, we forget about the journey and the process and how to actually enjoy
Speaker:that part, because we're, we just want to get there so badly and so quickly.
Speaker:And we had to say, if we don't bend the spoon, it just means
Speaker:we're learning how to hold energy.
Speaker:And if we bend the spoon, it also means we're just.
Speaker:learning how to hold energy.
Speaker:So the result of whether you bend the spoon or not has
Speaker:nothing to do with who you are.
Speaker:It's we're just learning how to hold energy.
Speaker:And this seems like a really weird activity, right?
Speaker:Like to some people may may think.
Speaker:Okay, big deal.
Speaker:You, you meant a spoon.
Speaker:So what?
Speaker:Or maybe to some, it's like, Ooh, that's really weird.
Speaker:You're so weird cat.
Speaker:Like, you know, like, what are you talking about?
Speaker:You know?
Speaker:Um, but let me break it down just a little bit.
Speaker:What it really just means is that, you know, when I talked about frequency
Speaker:in the last episode, which was last night's debrief of the event yesterday,
Speaker:I talked about how we hold it.
Speaker:We have a frequency and our frequencies are energetic vibe.
Speaker:And what that really just means is that the way we present ourselves to the world
Speaker:and to everything around us is It's a direct reflection of who we actually think
Speaker:we are internally and subconsciously.
Speaker:So if we believe that we're not worthy and we're not enough, uh, and we're not
Speaker:loved the way we present ourselves to others, we'll always have that frequency,
Speaker:like a layer of that energy underneath it.
Speaker:So even if we're like, we're outgoing, we're awesome.
Speaker:We look confident, but internally.
Speaker:You're really struggling with self worth, that frequency is still going
Speaker:to come out no matter what, because no matter what you look like externally,
Speaker:what is actually internally going on inside of you is truly what matters.
Speaker:And so, In the exercise is talking about your power and the energy that you
Speaker:hold inside and be able to focus that power into something or into someone.
Speaker:So we are all conduits of energy.
Speaker:We hold energy in our bodies, right?
Speaker:So we are conduits of energy, but then we can also transfer that energy.
Speaker:And that was something that.
Speaker:And this is how do we hold the energy that's inside of us and
Speaker:then transfer it into something to really powerfully demonstrate
Speaker:that we are powerful human beings.
Speaker:We are powerful.
Speaker:Our words have power.
Speaker:Our thoughts have power.
Speaker:Everything in our body holds power.
Speaker:And How do we make sure that, you know, the energy that we carry has power
Speaker:because of the internal belief systems that we have believed our entire lives.
Speaker:And so they made this go through the series of exercise.
Speaker:The room is dark and there's music going on.
Speaker:And, uh, the lady, Jennifer Finley, she made us to go
Speaker:through this exercise where we.
Speaker:Hold the spoon.
Speaker:And she said, um, think about the time in your life where you felt the most joy and
Speaker:whatever comes to your mind right away.
Speaker:You trust that.
Speaker:And you just go with that.
Speaker:You don't you don't judge it.
Speaker:You don't change it.
Speaker:You just take that.
Speaker:And then you try to grab a hold of that power because there's
Speaker:there's power in that joy.
Speaker:And you tried to find it.
Speaker:Focus it into the space between your fingers because you're holding the spoon
Speaker:like this and just focusing that energy there and, and, and seeing if you can,
Speaker:as you focus that energy there that it would actually make the spoon bend.
Speaker:So think about, uh, a faucet if there's no host.
Speaker:When you open the faucet, you know, the, the, the water is going to come out,
Speaker:but it's not going to be as powerful.
Speaker:But if you have a hose, right, the water that comes out of a faucet, all
Speaker:of a sudden has this surge of energy.
Speaker:It goes through the host.
Speaker:And when it goes out of that spout in the host.
Speaker:It has so much power because it's focused energy.
Speaker:And so it felt like a forever exercise.
Speaker:I think it was like about 40 minutes long, and it was just
Speaker:a series of those scenarios.
Speaker:When did you feel the most loved?
Speaker:When did you feel the most courage?
Speaker:All these different scenarios, and you just had to take a hold of that, and then,
Speaker:You know, focus that power and transfer it that that energy and transfer it
Speaker:into the spoon to try to bend the spoon and I'm sitting there closing my eyes.
Speaker:I'm thinking, yep, definitely not happening to me today.
Speaker:I don't know what power they're talking about, but I'm trying to drop into these
Speaker:experiences of joy and love and courage.
Speaker:And this is just not happening.
Speaker:And then she said, Okay, now think about a year from now, because we're in a business
Speaker:conference and the business conference is all about how to grow your business.
Speaker:What do you do right to grow your business?
Speaker:And again, this is not just about strategy.
Speaker:It's about actually working internally to be able to present yourself
Speaker:in a more effective way, right?
Speaker:That actually really translates that that converts because you are
Speaker:presenting in your most authentic self.
Speaker:And so she said, picture yourself a year from now.
Speaker:You've accomplished what you want to accomplish in your year in this one
Speaker:year of business because we're coming up into, you know, the end of the year and
Speaker:now we're talking about our goals for the year for your business and you've
Speaker:accomplished it and you see your future self and step into that future self now.
Speaker:But before you do that, think about.
Speaker:What was the cause that finally made that breakthrough happen?
Speaker:What was the thing that finally allowed you to crush your numbers, to meet
Speaker:your goals, and to, to be exactly where you wanted to be a year from now?
Speaker:And yesterday, my breakthrough yesterday was the realization that I still
Speaker:have all these self worth issues.
Speaker:And the only way for me to step out of that instantly is to drop into who I am.
Speaker:in my identity in Christ, in my identity as a daughter of the Most High God, in my
Speaker:identity in the daughter of the Father who loves me unconditionally no matter what.
Speaker:And the moment I dropped into that and I had this vision again of myself just like
Speaker:running towards Papa, running towards my Father, and just holding my arms like
Speaker:this and God picking me up and swinging me around and holding me, the moment I
Speaker:had that vision, This surge of power.
Speaker:I can't, it was crazy because after the exercise, I was sobbing
Speaker:uncontrollably and I could not even talk.
Speaker:I wanted to share, because after that they were asking people to share.
Speaker:I wanted to raise my hand and share, but I couldn't.
Speaker:I just sat and I was like,
Speaker:like, I don't even know, but I was literally, and the lady next to
Speaker:me, she's like, you need a hug.
Speaker:And I'm like, and she just hugged me so tightly because it was.
Speaker:It was incredible, the experience that I had, and so I pictured that, and I
Speaker:felt this power, and then I stepped into my future self, and I saw myself
Speaker:as someone who finally has successfully taught hundreds of kids this life skill
Speaker:of finding their self worth, this life skill of resilience, the life skill of
Speaker:integrity, the life skill of standing up to peer pressure, the life skill of,
Speaker:of, of Stepping into their own power, the life skill of, of believing in
Speaker:themselves and, and having confidence and they no longer have self worth
Speaker:issues like these kids that are 6 to 14 year olds and, and they're like young
Speaker:kids, but they're stepping into their power and they're not having comparison
Speaker:issues and, and all these things.
Speaker:And, and I, I saw myself as that person who successfully taught these kids.
Speaker:And, and were able to mentor them and, and help them find a stronger
Speaker:mindset and a stronger identity.
Speaker:And as I was doing that, I just kept feeling this search of
Speaker:power and I just held the spoon.
Speaker:And I, I was doing this and I was like, I think it's, Oh, that's odd.
Speaker:I think it's moving.
Speaker:I think it's moving and I look and I open my eyes and I'm
Speaker:like, oh my gosh, it's moving.
Speaker:It's moving.
Speaker:It's moving.
Speaker:Freaking bent it.
Speaker:And, and And the thing is, like, as soon as I opened my eyes, right, I,
Speaker:because it was bending, I, I kind of like, I think that the power was there,
Speaker:but I was so surprised that I was like, Oh, I was, I was like, so excited.
Speaker:I kind of like put even more force to it.
Speaker:And, and so the beginning part was really, really, it, it really felt like surreal.
Speaker:It felt like this weird sense of energy that it was just bending the spoon, like,
Speaker:and, and I was not in control of it.
Speaker:It was like the craziest experience.
Speaker:And then, and then, I was, I opened my eyes and I was so surprised
Speaker:that I just was so excited.
Speaker:I kept bending it right.
Speaker:And then later on, after that, in the exercise, once we all like kind of settled
Speaker:from that experience, Jennifer Finley, the lady said, you know, the more you
Speaker:do this, uh, Literally the less energy it actually takes, because what happens
Speaker:is the more you understand your power and your energy and how you can actually
Speaker:transfer it, um, into your personal life, into your business life, um, into
Speaker:the way you parent and your friendships and like literally in everything, right?
Speaker:Like if you have that crazy love energy, crazy, joyful energy, crazy,
Speaker:uh, courage, energy, and that.
Speaker:Power and you're able to transfer that into everything you do.
Speaker:Gosh, that's powerful.
Speaker:And so she said that you can actually do this exercise over and over again.
Speaker:And over time, you're going to learn that you won't need as much,
Speaker:like you actually don't need a lot.
Speaker:You just need a little, and you can work with a little, and you're going to be
Speaker:a lot more efficient with transferring that energy because you, you're going
Speaker:to The little that we have is already a lot, actually, like the little power
Speaker:that we have is already a lot, and in the beginning you feel like you have to
Speaker:harness that so much and push it into, you know, learn how to transfer that
Speaker:energy and that power, but, but after a while you're just going to learn,
Speaker:you know, that you can be a little more chill about it and you can, you
Speaker:know, you, you, you just drop into it, you just, because it's a practice, and
Speaker:so I'm just so excited, because now I have a new exercise that I want to do.
Speaker:I'm not going to say every day because I don't want to say something and then, you
Speaker:know, actually not follow through with it.
Speaker:But I'm definitely going to be doing this again.
Speaker:And maybe, maybe just been, you know, at least maybe put a goal
Speaker:like, okay, let's talk 10 spoons.
Speaker:Let's bend 10 spoons.
Speaker:Let's go through these, through this exercise 10 times.
Speaker:And I'm going to bend 10 spoons and learn how to always find
Speaker:that power that was so powerful.
Speaker:Oh, the moment I saw myself as a little girl.
Speaker:Who felt so loved, but not just loved, but loved by my father
Speaker:in heaven unconditionally.
Speaker:And then I saw myself as that's the reason why I was able to fully step
Speaker:into the growth of my business, because I am so secure in who I am,
Speaker:because I have nothing to prove.
Speaker:And I've let go of any attachment to what success looks like.
Speaker:And I've let go of any attachment to, you know, me having to
Speaker:prove to the world that.
Speaker:Oh, look at me.
Speaker:Look at my empire.
Speaker:Look at my look at my business.
Speaker:Look at this.
Speaker:Look at that.
Speaker:And the moment I've let go of that, you know, that that's actually what's gonna
Speaker:make me successful is letting go of the need to prove and the need to, you know,
Speaker:attach myself worth into an achievement.
Speaker:And so that was really interesting and powerful in all the ways and
Speaker:What an incredible experience today, and I will be back tomorrow at BBD Live.
Speaker:I'm gonna keep this forever.
Speaker:My very, very first spoon, my very, very first bent spoon.
Speaker:I am now officially a part of the Spoon Benders Club, that's what they say.
Speaker:I don't know, it's not really a club, it's a made up thing,
Speaker:but I just think it's cool, so.
Speaker:That's my takeaway from today.
Speaker:We have our power.
Speaker:We need to understand our power.
Speaker:We need to know our power.
Speaker:We need to own our power, and we need to know how to be able to transfer it to
Speaker:the things that we do in, in real life.
Speaker:Very cool.
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