The root of all my failures and overcompensating

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Hey, my name is Kat.

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And I'm Lee.

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And welcome to the Wildly Wealthy Life Podcast.

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In this show, we explore the journey of what it means to live a truly

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leadership values, and more.

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contributions for their communities We hope you embrace the challenge to shift

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your perspective as we equip you and the next generation for a wildly wealthy life

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Hey, it's kat coming to you today solo and I mean tonight Uh right

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now i'm recording this episode from phoenix, arizona It is currently 10.

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04 p.

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m.

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I am in my Airbnb in the lobby of my Airbnb spot.

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And I just came back from an all day event called Business by Design Live.

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This is my little pin right here.

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For those who are listening in audio, I have a little pin that

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says, My first BBD Live 2024.

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My little badge right here, Katrina Dinkong, my name with

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digital CEO at the bottom.

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And, um, he was an incredible event that had me pretty much crying the entire day.

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And if you are seeing me from YouTube, you can probably tell that my eyes are a

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little, um, swollen from crying all day.

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Um, business by design is truly what it means in every sense of the word.

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It is.

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Building a business that is out of your own design that matches your

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lifestyle, that matches what you really want to do and the purpose

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that you want to live out and the gift that you want to leave in this world.

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You know, for the longest time, gosh, I'm doing this literally off the cusp.

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I'm just thinking about the day.

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I'm kind of debriefing my day and sharing this with my wildly

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wealthy life podcast listeners.

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Because to me, I think that as we go through life, we.

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We're going to have different experiences where we think of a wildly

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wealthy life in different ways, right?

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My definition of a wildly wealthy life maybe years ago is

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completely different from today's definition of wildly wealthy life.

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And what I realized is that a wildly wealthy life to me truly means that

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you Have a deep unconditional love for yourself and who you are as a person and

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that you have such this This deep sense of self worth that you love all of who

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you are your uniqueness your quirks your weirdness your You know what what repels

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people from you that you love that too.

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What what attracts people to you that you love that too um Because we're not,

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we're not meant to be for everyone, right?

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And so you have to love all of who, all of who you are.

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And I think the reason why it comes up is because when you are building

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a business by design, especially in my case, I'm building a business

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where it's life coaching for kids.

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In any business anyway, I think it brings up a lot of stuff about you internally.

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And what happens is when you're building a business, it literally

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mirrors everything that's coming out is all of your insecurities, all of

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your unworthiness, all of your imposter syndromes are coming out all at once.

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And what I've realized is that everything that I actually ever

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want in life is on the other side.

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Of me believing who I am and that I am worthy full stop.

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I'm worthy No questions.

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I'm worthy.

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That's it.

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Not I'm worthy because not I'm worthy.

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If not, I'm worthy.

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A, B, C, D, E, F, G.

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And I realized that everything that I've done in life,

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all of my insecurities, all of my overworking and overachieving, All of my

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need to be successful and desire to be successful has come, has been rooted in

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the fact that I've always felt unworthy.

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I've always felt like I'm not.

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Enough and so I always do so much more because I don't feel like I am enough

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I always so work so much harder because I feel like I am enough You know this

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whole thing with life coaching with kids The story about me not being able to be

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pregnant and and my struggle with with with infertility It's a real story It's a

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real struggle, but I guess I realized that I always share it from a place of like,

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I feel like I need to prove to people that I am enough as someone who just

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loves kids and loves to work with kids.

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And that, that in itself is enough without me having to prove that while

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I've done all of these things, and even though I'm not a mom, you should

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trust your kids with me because I know what I'm doing with kids.

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I think there's this imposter syndrome in me that I just realized that I think the

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reason why I always have to share, or I feel like I have the need to share that,

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that wow, um, You know, I want to, I want to coach your kids through life and yeah,

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I'm not a mom, but, but, but, but, but, but, but, you know, but I've done this,

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I've done this, I've taught kids for 15 years, blah, blah, blah, all these things.

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And, and I guess part of that is just, you know, presenting credibility.

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I understand that, that there is a sense where if you're asking people to work

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with you, no matter in what industry, what, what niche it is that you do

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have to present yourself as credible.

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So there is a sense.

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a sense, an aspect to that, that, um, I do have to, you know, say

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the credentials, my experiences, because that's just how it is, right?

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Like when you go to a job interview, you tell people about your experiences

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and your, your degrees and all of that stuff, because you do have to sort

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of prove that you are, um, up, you are worthy of the position, right?

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But I guess in this sense, I just realized that That, yeah, that the

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reason why I always share that story is because I have this, this fear

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that parents won't trust me with their kids because I don't have kids.

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It's almost like looking at someone that, oh, you want to be a life coach for kids?

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Like, okay, like, do you even know anything about having children?

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You don't even have your own children.

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Why would you be a life coach for kids?

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Like, there's so many of these, like, negative, Thoughts in my mind of not

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being enough and today what happened was I heard Catherine Zankina speak

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today and if you guys don't know who she is, she's built an incredible.

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It's crazy.

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She's she's had like an incredible like 30 million business.

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Over the last, I think, like seven years or something like that, she started in

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her grandmother's couch working as a secretary, um, being paid 15 an hour.

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And then she's built this business, this empire that's now, you know, has a revenue

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of 30 million in the last seven years.

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And she talked about how.

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We all come with a certain frequency, our energetic vibe, right?

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Our energetic frequency.

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And, you know, that could sound a little weird for some people, but

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what that really just means is that your frequency is how you frequently

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see yourself and the way you present yourself to people and the way you

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present yourself to the world is really a reflection of how you see yourself.

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See yourself internally.

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And so when you see yourself constantly as you're not enough, and you don't

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have this deep sense of self worth, it shows in everything that you do, whether

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it is outrightly like direct or, or.

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Like subconsciously, right?

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Because what we put out there in the world is truly What is

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energetically inside of us?

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And so What I've realized is that over my entire life the main struggle

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i've always had has been self worth issues because of the abandonment

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that I felt when I was a kid And this has nothing to do with You know, my

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parents, like, they're not bad parents.

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My parents are amazing parents.

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I love them so much, and they're amazing parents.

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But, when they left, when I was a kid, everything changed.

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Every pain that I've had, I've realized that I've actually rooted it back

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to that moment that I was left as a young seven year old little girl.

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And no matter how good the reason is of my parents leaving, that the feeling

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of abandonment, that feeling of, um,

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Well, I'm not worthy because, you know, I'm not loved and all of these things

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has been literally the root of all of my issues, you know, all of all of my issues

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and everything, like every big, big, big mistake I've ever done in my life.

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If I really, truly look back, it's because I didn't think I was enough.

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It's because I didn't think I was worthy.

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And so the mistakes that I've done in the past has always been, well,

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I need to prove myself or I need to do something right to just basically

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fill that need of feeling worthy, feeling wanted, feeling loved.

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And so as of today, What is today?

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December 5, I think 2024.

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I just really realized that the definition of a wealthy, wealthy life for me is

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when you have a deep, unconditional love for yourself and you are fully,

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fully believing that you are worthy.

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No matter what, no matter what the world says, no matter what anyone says

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and that you really believe it and it's not based on your achievements.

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It's not based on your success.

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It's not based on your physical physicality, what you

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look like, what you can do.

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It's not based on the money in your bank account and that you are

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just really truly worthy simply because you're a human being.

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And so bringing that back, what I realized is that.

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Bringing that back to my, my business, which, um, Katz Case Company is my company

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that I founded teaching piano and I'm transitioning into life coaching for kids.

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What I really realized is that

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It doesn't matter, I think, how strong an individual you are.

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I think that all of us truly struggle with this.

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That all of us, in some stage in our life, struggle with self worth issues, right?

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Like, all of us.

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Whether you, Know it or not, whether you admit it or not.

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I think all of us struggle with self worth issues and Because I realized that

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that that's been the the root issue of everything that i've ever faced in my

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entire life um what it actually really Is for me is the reason why I want to

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coach these kids with the life skills that I want to teach them Is because

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these life skills Start with them knowing who they are and their thoughts and,

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and how they navigate their thoughts.

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And, and through, through the life coaching sessions for the kids, I get

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to really teach them their self worth.

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I get to teach them just this unshakable confidence and a soaring

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self esteem that at a young age, that they would believe that they

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are worthy and that they are enough.

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Because if you think about it, you know, like, I, I, yeah, as I said

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already, like, I don't have kids, but I do know that what kids do at the

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very young age, Mom, look at this.

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Mom, look at that.

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Mom, look at what I can do.

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Mom, look.

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Every, every child I've ever taught, right?

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What gives them, what gets them excited, it's them showing you who they are.

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Showing you, they're like, you know, every time I, if I go to someone's

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house, like every child, they're like, look at my room, look at my room.

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This is where I do my studies.

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This is where I do my play.

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This is, look at my toys.

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Look at, it's, it's everything as a child is look at me, look at me, look at me.

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And what that is, is the child.

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Just seeking validation is the child seeking love and acceptance and

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belongingness and over time, you know, and we all know this right as

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we as we get older, um, that need.

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never goes away.

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We still want to be loved.

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We still want to belong.

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We still want to be validated, right?

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And today it was such a powerful moment when I realized that the

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reason why I'm doing this life coaching for kids is because I want

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to serve that little child in me.

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That as a child didn't know how to process the feelings of abandonment

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that I had, the feelings of unworthiness and being unloved that I had, that I

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just didn't know how to process that.

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And maybe, Maybe if I knew how to process that, maybe, maybe I'd

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be in a different place today.

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You know, who knows, right?

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I mean, I'm happy with who I am and where I am in life.

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But what would it look like if, if a child had the tools to

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understand how their minds work?

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And, and be able to develop such a deep sense of self worth at such a young age,

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not that they're never going to struggle with self worth issues because they will,

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but that when they do, they have a better starting point, they have a better, you

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know, like diving board, if you, if you think about it, that they can just stand a

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little taller, you know, in who they are.

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That's it.

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If they could just stand a little taller in who they are, if they

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could just believe a little bit more in who they are, because they had

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the tools, because someone taught them the tools of how to do that.

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And I realized that's, that's why I'm doing this.

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That's why I'm doing this is because the child in me that really needed

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that when I was seven, Didn't get it.

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I didn't get that kind of help.

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And that's why I want to do this.

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I want to, I want to help kids.

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Um, I have a student in piano.

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This boy, this boy, he told me that, um, he doesn't have friends at school

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because all his friends think that he's just too loud and he's too much.

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You know, what would that look like when you're always being told that you're

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too much, you're too loud, you know?

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It will make you want to shrink, it will make you do either one of the two things.

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It will make you either shrink or it will make you even rebel and do crazy things.

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Because it's like, you know, all you say is too much.

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Well, watch this.

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I'm going to be even more, you know, if you think that's too much, well

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watch this because what you thought was too much is not that much now.

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I'm really going to show you, you know, like it could go that way or

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it could go the other way where it's like, well, I guess I'm just going

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to shrink and hold back and not say anything because apparently I'm too much.

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And I think of that student of mine and my heart just breaks,

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you know, my heart breaks.

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And, and.

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Gosh, like, and this is in a piano class.

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So I haven't like, you know, when he said this, I haven't like fully really

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gotten the tools yet because I haven't gone through the whole certification yet.

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But now that I have with like my life coaching for kids, like, now

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I have more of the tools that I can really help with the kids, but

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I don't want it to be reactive.

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I don't want to give them the tools when, It's happening in the moment,

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you know, because when it's happening in the moment, it's harder for

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them to receive the tools and to actually put it into implementation.

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But, but when you give them tools before the things happen, right, they've had

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practice with the tools before it actually happens, then they can be more prepared.

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And so, yeah, that's, that's what I want to build.

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I want to build.

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A life that is wealthy, wealthy for myself.

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And that means that the growth of my business is going to come from me really

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just truly believing who I am and what I do to serve families and people and

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kids and, and believing in that so much.

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And I believe in it.

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I've already believe in it a hundred percent, but I think I just realized that

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I still have, I still have some self worth issues that I have to have to still nip in

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the butt and, uh, you know, um, Still have to constantly check myself and just submit

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and actually someone asked me today.

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Well, how did you heal from that?

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You know, and I realized that the way that I've really healed from that.

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And this is from a perspective of someone who loves the Lord.

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I love, I love God.

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I love Jesus.

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Today, when we were going through this whole.

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Meditation in the event, I just realized that the only way I heal

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from it is to run towards God.

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That's it.

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The moment, the moment I drop into that child in me who just believes

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that a father, a father in heaven loves her so unconditionally.

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That's when I'm the most, I'm the most sure of who I am.

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Because to me, just realizing that, you know, the God who created this

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whole universe, the God who created earth, the God who breathed life

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into me, The God who created all of me, loves me unconditionally, no

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matter what I've done, no matter,

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no matter my success, my failures, none of that matters, He just loves me for

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who I am, and that I need to grab a hold of that, I just need to grab a hold

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of that and believe that for myself.

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You know, and that to me is how I, you know, every time, every single time,

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and I've realized every single time I run away, I've run away from God.

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That's when the self worth issues take root even more, you know, and every time

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I run towards him, it just melts away.

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And it's incredible.

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And it can happen in an instant too.

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It's just so instantaneous.

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Like the moment I drop in it, it's just like,

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I don't have to do so much.

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I don't have to prove myself.

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I can just be.

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And, uh, yeah.

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That's a wildly wealthy life to me.

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And what I want is for the kids that I get to work with to start off with that.

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To start off with that.

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Wildly wealthy mindset that they are enough, that they are loved and valued,

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and their uniqueness and who they are is exactly the way they are because they,

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there can be no one else like them.

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And, and they have this uniqueness that they can bring into the world

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that only them can bring, you know?

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And I just want them to embrace that.

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I want them to, to love themselves.

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That's, I guess it.

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Tomorrow is another early day at, uh, BBD Live and I will record, hopefully

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record another episode for the podcast.

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And, uh, yeah, that's my solo episode for Wildly Wealthy Life.

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I hope that you got blessed by that.

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And, um, Yeah, thanks for listening.

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Alright friends, that's a wrap on today's episode of Wildly Wealthy Life.

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